Weddings really are a very large working example of incremental cost/value theory.
The only problem is very few people realise that they are part of a life demonstration of the theory, or even what they theory is. A simple google search of the theory generally shows that there is very little understanding about the theory in the general sphere. Commercial yes, but not personal. However it’s a concept which people deal with on a daily basis in their thought processes for purchasing and utilising products and utilities. The fact that conscious attention isn’t drawn to this fact is alarming to me, and hence the need to postulate for a little on the point!
So what is the theory? When you look at it from a commercial perspective the definitions are usually pretty similar – “Incremental cost is the overall change that a company experiences by producing one additional unit of good”. most people may perhaps be more familiar – at least with its name – with the concept of cost-benefit analysis. Cost-benefit analysis involves comparing the total expected costs of each option against the total expected benefits, to see whether the benefits outweigh the costs, and by how much; essentially for every $1 I spend on something I would like to get $1 back.
However I think it’s a little rough to try and do a cost benefit analysis of a wedding. You have lots of costs, and no monetary benefit. Weddings are truly the home of cost-effectiveness analysis – a form of economic analysis that compares the relative costs and outcomes (effects) of two or more courses of action. It is distinct from cost-benefit analysis, which assigns a monetary value to the measure of effect.
So if cost-benefit analysis is for every $1 I spend on something I would like to get $1 back then cost-effectiveness analysis is for every $1 I spend on something I would like to get $1 of utility/value back. That is – did the extra dollar spend improve the event/thing to by more than $1/a unit of value.
We all do it every day. It’s why we don’t all eat out at Michelin star restraints ever night and its why we don’t all drive a Porsche GT2. How do we do it? Well we think pizza from Dominoes will set us back $20 for dinner and Aria will set us back $300. After a long day of work and couldn’t be stuffed cooking but you’re hungry and need, do you feel 15 times fuller off the Aria dinner? Or if you just drive to and from work and you live 5km from the city and commute in traffic and don’t know a rocker cover from a steering wheel, do you get to work 25 times faster in your GT2 versus a $20K Honda Jazz?
So we all do it every day we are buying things. Some people see the value in some things which others don’t. It’s one of the reasons we all like not being in a communist country. We might put some value in that asiago bread over the mouldy jobbie Pyongyang is serving up to all and sundry.
Though while we all use it all the time, it would seem this rule is somewhat forgotten by some people when they are planning their wedding. For me I would love to have a 4th generation late 50’s (‘58 or ‘59) Cadillac Sedan de Ville replete in chrome and 500cc 8.2 L V8 pumping out when new an obscene 400bhp/298kw. Nothing signalled the post war industrial might and optimism of the US like a big block V8 and 6000lbs of sedan.
However the cost of getting one up to Vail for what is in essence about 5 minutes driving between the relevant locations is substantial, and when I consider the utility to be obtained from the extra expenditure, well it just doesn’t give the return that I can get from being in a nice E60 530i which comes at a sensationally good cost/utility rating. It’s not a Sedan de Ville but it does happen to get people from the church to the reception… and given the advancements in engineering probably with a higher probability of success.
This is just one example of considering the incremental value obtained from further expenditure which you can undertake to spend as part of planning a wedding. The opportunities are ENDLESS to spend more and more and more on adding this little bit and that little bit. But at the end of the day, can you actually demonstrate that you have obtained an appropriate return on that extra investment?
I would consider success in wedding planning to be a happy bride (parents I know would like to add their name to this as well, however they would – push come to shove – agree it is about the bride!). So then the question at the end of the day is, does that extra $2x item that you’ve obtained versus the $1x option deliver you twice as much happiness? If it doesn’t, then why in the hell are you getting it?! For some the 90ft stretch pink Hummer H2 might just deliver the requisite improvement in happiness. For others its driving around the corner and out of view will herald the delivery of an equal improvement in happiness.
The happiness of friends and family come into play here as well. The happier they are, the happier the bride is, and no one wants to be in a room full of indulgent friends getting belligerent over the lack of 1945 Chateau Mouton-Rothschild Jeroboam or 1787 Chateau Lafitte or Château Pétrus. However their issues and the utility of their happiness can stop increasing the happiness of the bride. I’m sure if they were stuck in a permanent state of euphoria due to the Pétrus they may not want to talk to the bride. This would be akin to a withdrawal from the bride’s emotional bank account – but way of a ram raid or small gas cylinder originated improved explosive chained to the ATM. One does not want to take to the bank with such callous disregard for the groom, who will be with the bride post event! No amount of driving in the 59 DeVille is going to resurrect I fear.
And so I shall get to the point of this pontificating before the audience is nonexistent.
Part of delivering an exceptional wedding experience is delivering incremental value along through every decision made in its planning. Accordingly you must ask what is the incremental value each decision is offering you and is it worth/delivering what it costs?
Consider this: What if your wedding was empty?
What if you took everything out of the wedding except for the bare minimum – a priest and some chairs?
Would your guests still come along for the big day?
I think they are the fundamental questions since they define the true incremental value your wedding planning decisions deliver.